Editing Sexual consent (section)

====Enthusiastic consent====
A variant of "yes means yes" consent is enthusiastic consent. Project Respect states that "positive sexuality" needs to start with enthusiastic consent" in which a person is as "excited and into someone else’s enjoyment" a they are, an engaged partner.<ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.yesmeansyes.com/consent |title=Consent |author=<!--Not stated--> |date= 2015-03-04|website=www.yesmeansyes.com |publisher=Yes Means Yes |access-date=9 June 2018 |quote=}} </ref> Planned Parenthood says that enthusiastic consent can be seen when a partner is "...happy, excited, or energized".<ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/sex/all-about-consent|title=All About Consent |author=<!--Not stated-->|date=<!--Not stated--> |website=www.plannedparenthood.org |publisher=Planned Parenthood |access-date=14 July 2018 |quote=}} </ref> Australia's NSW Minister for the Prevention of Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Pru Goward has called for an enthusiastic consent, with has been defined as an approach that helps to ensure that both participants want to be in the encounter.<ref name="Hack">{{cite web |url=http://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/hack/how-do-you-prove-enthusiastic-consent-in-court/9740214 |title='Enthusiastic consent': What is it, how do you prove it, and will it work in court? |author=<!--Not stated-->|date=8 May 2018 |website=www.abc.net.au |publisher=Triple J Hack |access-date=9 June 2018 |quote=}} </ref> A sexual assault survivor who supports the enthusiastic consent model states that "...if it's not an enthusiastic yes, then it's not enough."<ref name="Hack"/> Dr Nicola Henry stated that "legislating and determining "enthusiastic" [consent] in a court would be challenging.<ref name="Hack"/> Benedict Brook defines "enthusiastic consent" as “yes mean yes” with more vigour and with "constant checking in between partners that all is well." <ref> {{cite web |url=https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/sex/affirmative-consent-the-two-words-blokes-need-to-get-their-heads-round/news-story/1dc89c475599f606770c0349ecfe880d |title=Affirmative consent: The two words blokes need to get their heads around |last=Brook |first=Benedict |date=24 January 2018 |website=www.news.com.au |publisher=news.com.au |access-date=22 June 2018 |quote=}}</ref>

Gaby Hinsliff, in a ''The Guardian'' article entitled "Consent is not enough: if you want a sexual partner, look for enthusiasm", states that "enthusiasm, the unmistakable sense of not being able to keep your hands off each other [in an encounter]...is harder to mistake for anything else. And if it was there, but suddenly evaporates – well, you could always ask what’s wrong. If those two words kill the mood dead, it almost certainly wasn’t the right mood to start with."<ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jan/29/rape-consent-sexual-partner-enthusiasm |title= Consent is not enough: if you want a sexual partner, look for enthusiasm|last=Hinsliff |first=Gaby |date=29 January 2015 |website=www.theguardian.com |publisher=The Guardian |access-date=9 June 2018 |quote=}} </ref> It is "...meant to help clarify the places at which [sexual] initiators unintentionally and sometimes unknowingly cross from sexual experience to sexual assault.” <ref>{{cite web |url=http://thefederalist.com/2018/01/25/feminists-women-youre-consenting-sex-wrong/ |title=Feminists To Women: You're Consenting To Sex Wrong: 'Enthusiastic consent' is just another way of telling problematic women they're doing things wrong by lecturing them on how to have politically correct sex. |last=Tracinski |first=Robert |date=25 January 2018 |website=thefederalist.com |publisher=The Federalist |access-date= 19 June 2018|quote=}} </ref> In Robyn Urback's article "To McGill activists, a 'yes' doesn't mean consent", she states that the "Forum on Consent hosted at McGill suggests that a meek “yes,” or a nonchalant “yes,” or a “yes” without emphatic body language does not constitute consent. According to the panel “It must be loud and clear"".<ref>{{cite web |url=https://nationalpost.com/opinion/robyn-urback-to-mcgill-activists-a-yes-doesnt-mean-consent|title=Robyn Urback: To McGill activists, a 'yes' doesn't mean consent |last=Urback |first=Robyn |date= 27 February 2014|website=nationalpost.com |publisher=National Post |access-date=22 June 2018 |quote=}} </ref> Charles Sturt University's sexual consent program leader Isabel Fox, an enthusiastic consent advocate, says that "Our tag [slogan] is 'It is not a yes unless it's a hell yes'."<ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.abc.net.au/news/2018-06-26/consent-program-changing-culture-at-charles-sturt-university/9909800 |title=Consent program changing sexual assault, harassment culture at Charles Sturt University |last=Ferguson |first=Kathleen  |date=26 Jun 2018 |website=www.abc.net.au |publisher=abc.net |access-date=30 March 2019 |quote=}} </ref>

The "enthusiastic consent" model has been criticized by asexual people and [[sex worker]]s, as people in these categories may choose to have sex with people even though they are not "particularly wanting it or enjoying it themselves".<ref>Barker, Meg John. ''The Psychology of Sex''. Routledge, 2018.</ref> Lily Zheng states that while enthusiastic consent is good theory, it is a "nightmare in real-life intimacy" and she says that since it cannot "...move beyond guesswork, cues and assumptions [it] plays right into normative — straight, white, cisgender, middle-class — ideas about society", which means it does not work well for Asians, blacks, queer communities and other racial or sexual minorities.<ref name="Zheng">{{cite web |url=https://www.stanforddaily.com/2014/11/04/how-to-ace-sex-why-enthusiastic-consent-doesnt-cut-it/ |title=How to ace sex: Why enthusiastic consent doesn't cut it |last=Zheng |first=Lily |date=4 November 2014 |website=www.stanforddaily.com |publisher=Stanford Daily |access-date=23 June 2018 |quote=}} </ref> Zheng states that the enthusiastic consent model is "so vague" that "determining whether or not a real interaction was “enthusiastic” or not becomes next to impossible".<ref name="Zheng"/> Julianne Ross states that consenting adults may have sex that they both want to have without giving "enthusiastic consent", such as couples having sex to get pregnant or couples who want to please each other.<ref name="Julianne Ross">{{cite web |url=https://mic.com/articles/114176/what-the-conversation-around-yes-means-yes-is-missing#.Isjgjd0me |title=What the Conversation Around "Yes Means Yes" Is Missing |last=Ross |first=Julianne |date=8 April 2015 |website=mic.com |publisher=Mic |access-date=7 July 2018 |quote=}}</ref> One challenge with getting people to give enthusiastic consent in the bedroom is that women may be reticent to speak about their sexual desires because of a fear that they may be "slut-shamed".<ref name="Julianne Ross"/> Robert Tracinski asks "how can you tell if she is saying yes with sufficient enthusiasm?"<ref>{{cite web |url=http://thefederalist.com/2018/01/25/feminists-women-youre-consenting-sex-wrong/ |title=Feminists To Women: You're Consenting To Sex Wrong: 'Enthusiastic consent' is just another way of telling problematic women they're doing things wrong by lecturing them on how to have politically correct sex. |last=Tracinski |first=Robert |date=25 January 2018 |website=thefederalist.com |publisher=The Federalist |access-date= 19 June 2018|quote=}} </ref>